Navigating the First Week of Childcare: Understanding Separation Anxiety and Crying

Michelle Furch
May 07, 2024By Michelle Furch
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Starting childcare can be an exciting but emotional time for both parents and children. Understanding separation anxiety and crying during the first week can help make the transition smoother for everyone involved.

What is Separation Anxiety?

Separation anxiety is a normal part of child development and typically peaks around 8-14 months of age. It is a natural reaction to being separated from a primary caregiver and can manifest as crying, clinging, or tantrums.

Preparing for the First Week

Before the first day of childcare, talk to your child about what to expect and reassure them that you will always come back. Establish a goodbye routine that is consistent and comforting, such as a special hug or kiss.

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Understanding Crying

Crying is a common reaction to separation anxiety and is how young children express their emotions. It is important to remember that crying is a normal part of the adjustment process and does not mean your child is unhappy or being neglected.

Supporting Your Child

When your child cries during drop-off, stay calm and offer reassurance. Avoid sneaking out when they are not looking, as this can lead to trust issues. Instead, say a loving goodbye and trust the caregivers to comfort your child.

Building Trust

Building trust with the childcare providers is essential for both you and your child. Take the time to get to know the staff and ask about their experience with separation anxiety. Communication is key in ensuring a smooth transition.

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Creating a Comforting Environment

Work with the childcare center to create a comforting environment for your child. Bring a familiar object from home, such as a favorite toy or blanket, to provide a sense of security. Consistency and routine can also help ease anxiety.

Patience and Persistence

Remember that adjusting to childcare takes time, and every child is different. Be patient with both yourself and your child as you navigate this new experience together. Celebrate small victories and offer lots of love and support.

Seeking Help if Needed

If your child's separation anxiety persists or becomes overwhelming, don't hesitate to seek help from a pediatrician or child psychologist. They can provide guidance and support to help you and your child through this challenging time.

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